“We help people who suffer from Trichotillomania in the convenience and privacy of their own home to quickly and easily learn to overcome hairpulling and get a full life again. Works even if you have been pulling for the last 50 years on all areas where hair grows and have failed with everything you have ever tried.”


About Getting Better for treatment of Trichotillomania

Welcome to this website for treatment of trichotillomania from the team of Getting Better.

Getting Better programs are based the most comprehensive smart expert help available for winning from Trichotillomania.

So you can learn to free yourself quickly and comfortably, even if you have been pulling for the last 50 years on all areas where hair grows and have failed with everything you have ever tried.

You see, most people have the impression that for changing behavior like this, you must lay on a coach with a therapist for years and dig deep into your past through conscious insights. This is not how effective change for behavior like hairpulling happens.

Just like you started pulling at one specific moment in an instance, so can change happen in an instance.

By studying people who were highly successful in change work for unwanted compulsive behavior and model their approach, we have applied and finetuned that same approach for Trichotillomania. For more than 9 years already.

Helping you in learning how you can become free from this behavior and safe you years of misery, shame and feeling like a lesser person. But instead feel proud and get the most out of yourself and life.

Our assistance heavily focusses on setting you up towards long-term freedom and we are often able to help you create a breakthrough from hair pulling in 2 weeks or less.

And in 9 out of 10 times all in the privacy and comfort of your own home.

All our programs consist of a combination of personal assistance and online support and are backed up with a full satisfaction guarantee. To make it super easy to prove to yourself that you can learn to become free from this behavior too!

So instead of:

  • think of yourself as abnormal and feel ashamed
  • constantly be alert and anxious if people notice or what they may think of you if they find out (which only intensifies the hair pulling)
  • disappointing yourself and feeling bad after you pulled again or when you watch the mirror
  • wasting your precious time, energy and focus on this behavior, by either thinking about it or doing it
  • restricting yourself socially or performance wise with how it makes you feel
  • causing possible friction in relationships by carrying a secret or through misunderstanding, which can start to lead to mistrust
  • setting a bad example towards (future) children or important others

You can again:

  • think of yourself as normal
  • be relaxed and in the present moment
  • feel proud and confident
  • focus your attention and energy on things that matter
  • fully participate in life
  • get the most out of yourself
  • allow for more harmony and intimacy in relationships by feeling much better about yourself
  • be a good role model towards (future) children and important others
  • live a free and full life

Here are some recordings from people we helped:

More customer recordings can be found on the success stories page of our website.

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The word ‘smart’ refers to something that works in the real world. And more specifically in this instance, that often goes beyond mere theoretical concepts or conscious understandings to help you change.

When Rik, the founder of Getting Better, became fascinated with behavior, he quickly discovered that a lot of behavior for all of us happens subconsciously and it’s that subconscious level (beyond the conscious mind of mere willpower) that is often the decisive factor of what we do, think or how we feel in the moment itself. Often as a result of how we were conditioned as we went through life.

This is also true for Trichotillomania, where the act of hair pulling is something he defines as the end- result of everything that has happened to you before as you went through your days.

Not so much consciously, but far more subconsciously by how you processed things, what they meant to you, what you did or did not do, the results you accomplished and how you felt as you went through it all.

Like for example the urge for hair pulling, which is the end-result. A feeling inside, that builds up subconsciously and can become so strong that it will make you pull every single time, no matter what you tell yourself.

trichotillomania treatment root cause analysisTrying to force yourself consciously to change this through mere willpower or conscious understanding will make things very difficult, if not impossible. Because the act of hair pulling is the symptom and you need to learn to go back to the root cause, there where it actually all starts or what may trigger it.

So, for example if your beliefs of who you are and what you are capable of doing or learning will not support that what you want and need out of life to feel happy, this will cause inner turmoil and conflict if you are not happy with where you are in life.

And often prevent you from taking the actions that can help you correct what you are not happy with in the first place, until you learn how to change those deeper drivers of behavior that are often the result of your past.

So sometimes we can have “great stories” what we tell ourselves about what we can or cannot do in certain situation that are based on personal created beliefs that have nothing to do with the absolute truth.

They are often the result of things we experienced in the past, what important others and role models told us or how we were influenced through the media for example.

Like if you try something 3 times and you succeed every single time, chances are this will boost your confidence. And when you have to do it a fourth time, you are convinced you can.

But if you tried sometimes 3 times and failed the first 3 times, that what happened before can be triggered when you have a chance to make it happen the fourth time. In this example, the negative experience from the past can start to work against you and build up anxiety, especially if the desire to go after what you want is still there.

And trying to tell ourselves that we suddenly don’t care and ignoring that desire, would be the same as telling ourselves we are not thirsty and don’t need a drink after four days without any liquid at all. It’s a great story, but who would we be kidding.

Now some people are sometimes not even aware of doing the behavior of hair pulling in the moment itself. They defined it as being in a kind of trance or “zoned out“ (like when watching TV), and only noticed they did if afterwards.

Which only further indicates that to a great extend it’s all “happening” at a subconscious level anyways, especially the buildup of the urge for having to pull your hair.

trichotillomana treatment conscious subconsciuosThis concept of how our subconscious mind is often the decisive factor for behavior but can be influenced to cause misalignment between the conscious and subconscious is also very important to realize if you suffer from Trichotillomania at present.

Where increased levels of tension, anxiety of stress is one of the subconscious behavioral patterns that often causes more hair pulling as a result. Either directly or with a delayed response while reading or watching TV later on for example.

And often very subjective as well. Meaning, very much dependent on the context. So you can be mentally ok with how you feel in certain situations, but build up anxiety in others or feel overwhelmed without actually wanting to.

Which is often the result of “learned” subconscious responses. Or with a fancy way of describing it: a “stimulus-response process” that often happens beyond the conscious mind. Like how completing tasks under time pressure can create different feelings for different people. Where some may get sharper and be better able to focus.

While others can become really stressed, have great difficulty to focus and build up anxiety through sudden thoughts and start to doubt themselves in their ability to do well. All often happening in a split second subconsciously in the moment itself, which can either empower of disempower you.

treatment for trichotillomania blushingA normal day example for many people where we could notice that our subconscious is often the decisive factor in what we do is the experience of blushing. Noticing as your cheeks become red and maybe feeling embarrassed by the situation, you can try to stop that from happening in the moment itself by telling yourself not to do it.

But you probably have experienced or can imagine that the blushing only becomes worse than, because what triggers the blushing happens at a subconscious level inside of you, similar like the buildup of the urge for hairpulling.

Also, trying to change this by mere conscious willpower, the next time you will be in the same context, chances are very high that you will blush again without wanting too.

To learn to change something like that if you don’t want that to continue because it does not make any common sense can be very liberating and an important step towards freedom. For which you have to learn how to change – recondition your subconscious behavioral reflexes for moments like these.

Not by telling yourself you should think of feel different next time, but by doing powerful exercises that will help you “recondition” those earlier conditioned subconscious reflexes that can trigger the blushing or trigger the hair pulling. So you can learn to be ok the next time when experiencing situations that could have overwhelmed you before.

And quite effortless by the way in the moment itself, because what triggered the blushing or triggered the hair pulling in the past subconsciously, can now become a stimulus for feeling confident for example when you learn how to do that.

As you can read on the page with answers to frequently asked questions that we have made available for you (see what is unique about your help for Trichotillomania), we heavily focus on helping you at “steering and transform at the core”.

Meaning we help you by going back to the root cause, those subconscious patters that directly but most often indirectly lead to building up the urge for hair pulling.

This is what we mean with “smart”. Helping you going back to the root cause, where it all starts, instead of fighting the symptom of hair pulling itself.

Furthermore by dedicating us to this cause and only focusing on Trichotillomania support for many years, we learned that often people need more intense support with specialized knowledge about specific subconscious behavioral processes that can lead to hair pulling.

However, it is our experience that few, if any, social workers are really specialized and dedicated in helping people with this kind of behavior. They do it ‘on the site’ in addition to many other forms of consultation.

This sometimes contributes to the perception (in our opinion incorrectly) that this is a persistent form of behavior that is difficult to overcome.

Something we wanted to change in this world. Which resulted over time that we came up with the most comprehensive and specialized help for Trichotillomania available today.

Also, the combination of personal assistance with online programs that we offer to our customers has proven to cause a strong synergetic affect in learning to become free from the behavior of hair pulling.

Which is probably also the reason why we were able to make a difference for so many people already. From people who only pulled for several years, to people who pulled for 50 years or more.

From people who pulled only mildly on one location to people who pulled very intense on any place where bodily hair grows. And everything in between.

So that is some more background information on how we can help and the meaning behind the words ‘The most comprehensive smart expert help for winning from Trichotillomania”, which brings it all together.

If you resonate with this, struggle with hairpulling yourself or someone you know, simple go here for our first recommended step for getting help.

How we came up with the unique approach to help you overcome hair pulling

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First step we recommend to help you free yourself from hair pulling

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About the initiator of Treatment for Trichotillomania

Hello, my name is Rik van Bastelaar, the person who initiated Treatment for Trichotillomania – Getting Better.

Long time ago I realized that training and managing your own mind is the most important skill you could ever own in terms of both happiness and success.

This insight led me to specialize myself how we do behaviour as human beings. Initially with a strong desire to benefit from this myself, but quickly discovering the true calling from my heart:

“assisting others improve the quaillty of their lives and manifestations”.

What I do

As a mental coach & trainer I love helping people improve the quality of their lives by overcoming unwanted / self destruting behavior.

One of these kind of behaviours is compulsive hair pulling, also known as Trichotillomania, Trich or just TTM. In plain words, a behavior where a person will complusively pull out bodily hair.

Why I do this

A person who suffers from compulsive hair pulling will consciously tell him – herself that they do not want to do this, but will continue to do it at the unconscious level.

Having already helped many people in 1 on 1 coaching sessions to overcome Trichotillomania, I always ended up with mixed feelings after another breakthrough.

On the one hand I had a feeling of deep satisfaction for being able to help this person and for the joy and satisfaction they reported afterwards on how their lives had improved as a result.

On the other hand I felt frustration because my energy and attention could only go out to a single individual a time. Because I knew there were still so many more who struggled unnecessarily with this kind of behavior (usually in silence) .

2 Questions were always at the back of my mind:

  • How can I help far more people who suffer from this in a way that would not require my physical presence?
  • How can I share my expertise in human behavior with those who suffer from this and those indirectly involved?

Knowing that trichotillomania is something you can definitely learn to overcome and trusting yourself that you too can move forward to much more personal freedom and a better quality of life is a first important step.

To assist you in this process and ultimately overcome compulsive hair pulling on your own with some remote support I have created this website. But also to share insights from people who already overcame this type of behaviour, so all of us get a better understanding of this topic.

How I got involved in Trichotillomania

If you are interested to find out more how I got involved in Trichotillomania, please read that here.

More about my personal and professional background

If you also want to know a little more about my personal and professional background, please help yourself and read that here.

A life without Trichotillomania: some personal stories of people who already made it!

To inspire you that you too can overcome Trichotillomania and that treatment is possible (rather quickly), click here for some case studies and video testimonials of people who already made it to the promissed land .

How can you find out more / How to connect (it’s easy!)

I sincerely hope that you will find the information on this website useful and look forward to your comments and questions via the contact page.

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