If you suffer from the urge of pulling out hair and are looking for treatment of Trichotillomania, then this article is for you!
Because I am sharing something here from someone I helped this week that you may recognize to be true for yourself as well.
When I first heard about this principle, it kind of escaped me.
But over the years I have heard this so many times, that I have decided to write this blog post about it.
Because part of our approach nowadays is to help you get out of this dilemma, so you can start moving towards freedom and change your life for the better.
The two sites of Trichotillomania that can paralyze you and can keep you pulling out hair for years!
You see, when you want to cure yourself from Trichotillomania, there are two sites of the coin that come with this behavior? Two opposing feelings, right?
On the one hand, you may like doing it; I mean the feeling of pulling out hair in the moment itself. Here are the exact words from the person I spoke to this week:
“Rik, I just like the feeling of doing it. It helps me while I have to do challenging things. It sometimes feels as it is even part of me, of who I am.“
But I knew we were talking over the phone for a reason when she said that, so I had to ask her about that other feeling, that other site of the coin that I knew she would recognize too and was the reason for contacting me!
So I asked her “what about the feeling later on, when you are realizing the impact this has had, both physically and emotionally?
I knew it was I direct question, but I had to ask in order to help her. And this was her response:
“That’s what I hate Rik, that’s why I want to stop with it. But I feel sometimes trapped in those two opposing feelings. Can you please help me with this?“
And when she said that, I knew something beautiful was on the way to help her achieve what she wanted!
Why is this important for treatment of Trichotillomania?
What I am sharing here may seem obvious, but also very important for effective treatment of Trichotillomania. Why?
Imagine you have two people pulling you in a certain direction. One is pulling to the left, the other to the right?
As you can imagine, you would not get very far if you kept listening to both of them. You may ignore the first person for a while, but then the other person may become louder and bring you right back to where you started.
Or, in other words, it’s like wobbling on your two legs, and your just not sure where to go to, what direction, because staying where you are is kind of nice and then again it really isn’t, right?
This is one of the main reasons why people stay stuck in doing this behavior.
How do we help people escape this trap via Trichotillomania therapy?
When we offer Trichotillomania therapy we allow people to escape this trap by having them go through 3 powerful exercises that will help them to make a shift .
These exercises are the big secret why people who we helped ‘suddenly’ learned to how to overcome this behavior because something really changed inside for them.
And they will impact you too in a very powerful way once you start to apply these into your own life.
Also, the power of these exercises is very much in the doing. Because just conscious insights are not enough to change a pattern of hair pulling that most people have struggled with for a longer period of time.
The girl I spoke to this week hardly heard anything new. Because somewhere in the back of her mind, she recognized this to be true. But that insight had not helped her in the past, and she felt stuck and asked me for help.
So I have her access to an online program that allowed her to escape from this trap and start walking towards freedom.
And for a long time, that program was only available in Dutch. And now I am very pleased to let you know that we also have this online program available in English.
Via the button below you can find out everything you need to know. But more importantly, how to make the shift yourself that will open the door towards freedom :).
With love and wishing you well.
Rik
